LiNgz

i guess most of u should know what had happened.
ya...

i had just ended my 3 years relationship.
ermm…
i also don’t know the exact reason, so don’t know ask me what happened.
i just feel that he no longer interested in this relationship.
we both had changed.
its really a pity that we came to this stage.
however, there’s no point dragging on when u know its time to let go.

well, he’s really a nice guy.
i’m v grateful n glad that our paths crossed once before and i’d treasure those moments eternally.

dear friends, thanks all for your concern.
yea i’m doing well, so need not have to worry about me.

an african proverb states, “before u get married, keep both eyes open, and after u married, close one eye.”

before u get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make u blind to warning signs.
once u decided to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.
if u love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, u’ve got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother u.
u n your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, n strengths.
neither of u r perfect, but r u perfect for each other?
do u bring the best in each other?
do u compliment n compromise with each other?
do u compete, compare, n control?
what do u bring to the relationship?
do u bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
u cant take someone to the altar to alter him or her.
u cant make someone love u or make someone stay.
if u develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, n ‘a life’, u wont find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness, responsible for your pain.
manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, n selfishness r not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving n lasting relationship!
seeking status, sex, wealth, n security r the wrong reasons to b in a relationship.
what keeps a relationship strong?
communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humour, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a cal, a touch, a note).
growth is important.
grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure.
allow your mate to have outside interest.
u cant always b together.
give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.
don’t try to control one another.
learn each other’s family situation.
respect his or her parents regardless.
don’t put pressure on each other for material goods.
remember for richer or poorer.
if these qualities r missing, the relationship erodes as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, n pain replaces the passion.
the difference between ‘united’ n ‘untied’ is where u put the 'i'.

i think i didn’t play my part well…

alritey, let’s not talk about the unhappy stuff.
i’m back from china.
supposed to come back on thurs but we extended our stay until sat.
so many things to do la.
every day i got to wake up early n slept late.
damn!
i’m deprived of sleep man!
lets see the photographs i took in china.

the hotel where we stayed - hangzhou bay hotel

the view behind my room

my room

v comfy

during meeting...

on the last day of my business trip, meeting was held in this room
i was super nervous lo because i need to present!


korean bbq dinner


the place where we had our dinner
a seafood restaurant
u get your room number after u ordered your food
so every people have their meal in a room
u'll b treated like VIP when u dine there
so special

chinese road sign

on thurs, labour day, we went to hangzhou
not shopping, purely sight seeing
T_T

traffic light for bicycles

was damn crowded lo

beautiful scenery
i dont like the pictures i took in hangzhou
because i look v ugly
HAHAHA

u see!
so many people on board
the boat going to capsize

the sales manager in china

our lunch

i like this
dont know what lotus

black glutinous rice
black colour but taste sweet
i dont like

black sweet corn
i dont like as well

my manager, mr kk

the way we took pictures together like v awkward lo

leifeng pagoda

mausoleum of general yue fei

at leifeng pagoda

luckily got escalator
otherwise i'd give it a miss
i was exhausted after a day walk!

looking down from leifeng pagoda

v beautiful

george, mr kk and i dont know he's name, he's the driver

wow!
u see this car, v long!

on our way to shanghai pudong airport

we were fortunate enough to cross the longest flyover in the world
open to public on 2nd may n we left ningbo on 3rd may

we were above the sea

when i was in china, i received a call that i can collect my tivoli gm.
v happy!
so on sun, i head down to orchard DFS to collect it.
i like it v much.
i’ll take extra care of it.

this picture was taken on the day before i went to china